Part of learning a new language is also learning the culture that surrounds it. Here we will focus on German cultural norms surrounding meeting, greeting and addressing people in various situations. Keep in mind that the following are generalizations and there are always exceptions to the rule.
Making Plans
One of the things that will strike you most about German culture is a near obsession with planning. (I admit I have inherited this Germanic quality). Germans in general are a forward thinking society that finds a sense of security in knowing when and where they will be and what they will be doing at any given time. Plans are often made well in advance and canceling out on someone is considered very poor form, especially at the last minute. Similarly, punctuality is key. Arriving right on time is best and being anything later than 15 minutes requires you to notify the person waiting for you that you are on your way and have a good excuse for your tardiness!
Addressing People
Although things are relaxing with the younger generations, Germans are still more formal when addressing people than are North Americans. A good rule of thumb is to stick with the formal form of address, Sie, when meeting another adult for the first time as the informal form of address, du, is generally reserved for people on a first name basis such as close friends, classmates and family members. If someone wishes to be on an informal basis with you they will let you know. If you wish to initiate being on a first name basis, you can ask politely “Können wir einander dutzen?“, literally, “Can we use the du form with one another?”
When greeting people, a firm handshake and eye contact are employed, even when addressing children. If you are in a business setting, keep in mind that small talk is kept to a minimum. It is not as important to build a rapport with someone when doing business in Germany, as Germans base their business decisions on someone’s expertise and experience rather than if their sons are in the same peewee league. In a work setting it is common to use Herr (Mr.) or Frau (Mrs.), and a surname rather than first names. If someone has another title, such as Dr. people use that as well, as education is highly valued in German society.
In some German-speaking areas such as southern Germany, Austria and Switzerland it is common to exchange hugs and a kiss on one or both cheeks when greeting someone you already know, especially close friends and family. Finally, when taking leave of people at a gathering it is polite to say goodbye to everyone individually with some sort of physical contact or at the very least a wave.
Here is a series of short and entertaining video podcasts titled “The Truth about Germany” which further explores German culture.
